“Every woman has the potential to be a goddess in her own right” is a phrase Tara Wallace has said when she was on an entertainment-industry panel, promoting her book. It’s intriguing because here was a woman, famous for being a part of a drama-filled reality show, who was now talking about something very different. We wanted to know more about this other side of her and reached out to her team—and we were thrilled when they said she was more than happy to let us interview and follow her around for a few hours.
At around 6am, we arrive at Tara’s apartment. Her oldest son, Jamison, answers the door, giving a great, big morning smile. Tara is sitting on her chic black-leather beaded couch with her infant son, Gunner, in her left arm and reviewing 9-year-old Jamison’s homework with her right. “I’m hungry now!” screams 4-year-old, Kaz, as he rolls down the hallway on the skateboard that Tara said was off-limits. She’s wearing a loose T-shirt with gray leggings, pin curls in her hair, and somehow (just like all the awesome mommies in the world), she seamlessly feeds the kids breakfast, reviews homework and even takes a call from her publicist without losing her cool. The star of VH1’s hit show Love & Hip Hop New York is in a new place in life. The busy mom and co-author of the women’s-empowerment book The Goddess Potential: A Guide To Developing A Relationship With Your Inner Self is trying to steer clear of drama and focus on keeping positive people and energy around her.
Hype Hair: What are the three words that best describe you?
Tara Wallace: Loyal, funny, resilient.
HH: Based on some of the really dramatic scenes from Love & Hip Hop last season, it seems like you had some really tough decisions to make. How did it all play out, and how did you handle it?
TW: Well, basically, here is the deal. I just want to clarify that I was in a relationship for 13 years with the father of my three sons. We lived together for more than seven years, and every aspect of our lives was deeply intertwined. When I found out about his infidelity, the world wanted me to just get over him overnight. I’m human, and it wasn’t that simple. At the end of the day, what people didn’t see on TV is that he was still trying to make things work. He was still fighting to come back home— and the bottom line is, I loved him. Despite some of his poor choices or what people may think about him, he does have a good and genuine heart. When I got pregnant with our third son, we were not together—but I was under the impression that he was single at the time. I knew and was fully OK with the fact that by keeping my baby [Gunner] I would be raising him as a single mother. None of this has been easy, but I followed my heart and did what I thought was right at the time. Everything happens for a reason, and I really have grown as a person from it all.
HH: How do you balance family life?
TW: I don’t have it together all the time, but I take it day by day. I try to set the standard high, because
I have the most important little people watching me. I work really hard to get everything done and try to not hold on to the frustrating moments when I’m not able to do it all. Plus, Jamison is my firstborn son, and his father and I were together seven years before I had him—so I felt completely ready for motherhood.
HH: How did your book come to life? Why is this type of book important?
TW: The vibe of the book is inner empowerment and sisterhood. I met my coauthor, Allyson Leak, when she was working as an editor for Sister 2 Sister magazine—and we hit it off instantly. She has been a journalist and spiritual healer for 10 years; she told me she was working on an empowerment book, and we decided to do it together. I feel like we brought two slightly different but really great perspectives to the book. The Goddess Potential is important to me because this is the first time I’ve opened up and used what I’ve been through and my platform to give back. Also, this marks the time in my life that I remembered myself and finally reclaimed who I am. After all, if I can’t use this experience to help someone, what was it all for?